From the author:

"As far back as I can remember I have always craved something different. While other kids played with games I was busy playing cowboy and Indians tying up the boys in the neighborhood... I was always passionate about bondage and many other aspects of bdsm and kink that led me to believe there was something wrong with me for having these naughty fantasies. But the truth is fantasies are a normal part of being human.  Our imagination allows us to see beyond where we are and to create fantasy realms where our sexual passions can run wild without limitations.  The good news is that many of these fantasies can be safely explored and enjoyed, but telling our partners that we have these fantasies can be terrifying.

For myself I discovered later in life that what I enjoyed actually had a name and that I was not alone in these fantasies. Because my personal fantasies were based on power exchanged role-playing my quest led me to the BDSM world of consensual kink. Once I discovered that there were bdsm communities I began learning everything I could about alternative lifestyles and kink. I paid pro-dommes to teach me the safe use of toys, I attended every workshop possible, I talked to my doctor extensively about the safety of some of the things we do, I attended classes on anatomy and psychology, I researched, I learned, I explored, I experimented, and during this process I came to accept what I was. I didn’t have to hide my fantasies – I could live them!

My passion for learning has taken me into areas of psychology in addition to all the enjoyable physical activities.  My educational background in Marketing and Communications has led me to see the world in a different light than many and I have always been fascinated by humanity and what makes us do the things we do.  Of course the first step in communication or marketing is understanding the motives of the consumer and that was the driving force that led me to delve deeper into the psychology behind bdsm and kink related activities. I have come to understand the “why” that leads people to seek erotic sexual activities that fall into the kink realm.

Eventually I discovered something that I love doing as much as learning... I love teaching!  I began teaching over a decade ago. I love sharing with others and I have a real passion for people.  Touching someone and helping them become aware of their potential (not just in bdsm but in all aspects of life) is the passion behind what I do these days as a professional bdsm and sex educator. 

I have spent years teaching in private workshops, one on one consultation, and even worked as a professional dominatrix to gain a deeper insight into the psychology of bdsm. I have run many local bdsm events from slave auctions, play parties, discussion groups, educational workshops, and for over a year I ran the FemDomme sanctuary to help women connect with other women who share in these passions.  In addition I am a writer who has been published in many bdsm forums, websites and newsletters across the US and Canada.  It is the thrill of seeing other people excitedly enjoying their healthy erotic relationship that continues igniting this desire to share with others. 

I also believe strongly in self-accountability and that the sooner people realize that they are accountable for their own actions (or inactions) the sooner they will be able to move forward in life in whatever direction they dream of… the biggest thing holding most people back from living the life they dream of is the mistaken belief that they have no choice.  There is always choice and hope.

It is my hopes that my work can provide not only practical advice to help open communications but also provide for years of future erotic fantasies explored with your loved one.  Sometimes all it takes is that first creative insight to spark the imagination.... from there, well, lets just say you get to set the limits."

Mistress Kay